My oldest sister once told me, "Friends come and go. You have friends in high school who won't always be your friend. You'll make friends in college and then move on and never talk to them. You'll eventually get new friends at a job later down the road who may not always stay there. Friends always change during different phases." Through out the last couple of years since being told that it has remained true. Do I still talk to people I went to college with? No, and if I do it's once a year or something. Do I still talk to people I used to work with? Nope, unless we are seeing how life is going. I have a few new friends since I moved to the east coast and time will only tell if we remain in contact when one moves. Who knows what the future holds!
Now don't get me wrong, I would love to stay in contact with more people but like my sister said, things change. It doesn't make me any less of a friend because I realize one day I may not be friends with someone because I will always be the best friend I can be with whomever is in my life.
Also, this isn't a reason to not have friends either. Don't make the excuse, "Well, since we probably won't remain friends so no point in having any." or, "Well, I'm in a new place and starting over sucks. No, thanks.". Life is dull when you have no one to share it with. Of course, family and spouses will be around for events but friends can be just as important! And sometimes, it's easier to rant to someone of the same gender than your husband. I know that for sure!
Another subject that goes along with friendship is balance. Balance and friendship? I'm sure you're wondering how these two words can be in the same sentence. Well, I'm here to explain!
Balance in a friendship is important. It is the thing that keeps a friendship from being one-sided. We can all agree that somewhere down the path of life we have come in contact with someone or quite a few someones that make everything about them. It is what they want, when they want it, and you can easily be replaced when your schedule doesn't fit into theirs. These are the people I can't stand! Obviously, for a very good reason. I mean, who wants to be beckoned when it works best for the other person? I am all about listening and understanding problems that people will face, but when they can't give you the same then there is no point in a friendship. A friendship is a form of relationship which requires two people. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with my husband where it's all about him. I'd lose it! This same concept goes for friends.
I am glad that even though friendships don't always work I can always count on my friend, Katelyn. I know that no matter where life takes us, we will always stay in contact and visit in person when we can. She is there for me to vent to and I am there for her. We have balance and it's great! If only more friendships could be that way.
To keep this post short, since mine always seem to be long, I'll end with this: Don't ever take a great friendship for granted and hold onto it for as long as possible. Friends may come and go but I want the good ones, the ones I really care about, to keep growing and flourishing like the beautiful flower that they are.
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